Suze: April 6, 2025. Welcome everybody to the Women and Money
Suze: podcast as well as everybody smart enough to listen. Suze
Suze: O here. Now, I am actually recording this on April 2nd.
Suze: And that is because we needed to leave
Suze: to go somewhere on April 3rd. All right.
Suze: I want you to listen to me today and take
Suze: out your little Suze notebooks.
Suze: Where are KT and I going?
Suze: A few days ago I got a text from my nephew,
Suze: telling me that his son
Suze: was killed in a motorcycle accident.
Suze: And how broken he is and how he would trade
Suze: his life if he could to have his son alive
Suze: again and how he just doesn't understand how this possibly
Suze: could have happened. Aaron Orman, known also as the Dude,
Suze: was only 24 years of age.
Suze: So while you're hearing this, KT and I are with
Suze: Travis Orman.
Suze: Both my nephews are Travis. Travis Race,
Suze: on KT's side and on my side, Travis Orman, and
Suze: we are with him because all he wanted from me
Suze: was a hug.
Suze: And a hug sometimes can be worth
Suze: everything.
Suze: So I'm sure by now I am hugging him many,
Suze: many times over, but as I've been thinking about this
Suze: the past few hours, I've been thinking about what is
Suze: not replaceable, and this is where I want you to
Suze: get out your Suze notebooks as I already asked you
Suze: to do.
Suze: I want you to write down everything in your life
Suze: that if you lost it,
Suze: you seriously could not replace it. Now I get that
Suze: if you lose your house.
Suze: It's possible for you to replace it with another house
Suze: somewhere else, so that doesn't qualify.
Suze: You lose your car.
Suze: It is possible for you to get another car.
Suze: And replace it, so that doesn't count. What is truly
Suze: not replaceable in your life.
Suze: Are you writing it down?
Suze: And I know as you're thinking about this and you're
Suze: writing things down.
Suze: Probably you are writing down the names of people.
Suze: Relatives loved ones.
Suze: That really are not replaceable no matter what.
Suze: And then
Suze: when you're finished with that, if you go to the
Suze: next column on the other side.
Suze: And put down all the things that are replaceable.
Suze: And that you fret about so much of the time.
Suze: All of you write me about, oh Suze, I've lost
Suze: money in the stock market.
Suze: And actually you haven't lost money in the stock market,
Suze: you've lost your gains in the stock market if you
Suze: bought at the right time.
Suze: Suze, I've lost my home. Suze, I've lost this. I've
Suze: lost that. I want you to really, really ask yourself.
Suze: All the things that you have lost, and I'm not
Suze: saying that those are not incredible tragedies.
Suze: But I think it's important.
Suze: In life that we always keep everything in perspective.
Suze: Everything
Suze: Just think about that for a second.
Suze: Because when you know that you've lost something.
Suze: But yet you do have the ability through either hard
Suze: work or through whatever it may be to eventually replace
Suze: and go on.
Suze: Then you can't lose your energy, your courage, your determination
Suze: to rebuild the life that you once had. Maybe it
Suze: won't be in the exact same place that you were living,
Suze: but you can rebuild a life that you learn to
Suze: love again.
Suze: What struck me from Travis talking to me, I said, Travis,
Suze: how are you doing? He kept saying, I'm broken.
Suze: I'm broken, Aunt Suze.
Suze: And I said, well, how's your daughter Amanda doing?
Suze: And he said she lost her best friend. Erin was
Suze: her best friend, and she's broken, but he kept
Suze: using the word broken over and over and over again.
Suze: And it's true. I'll never be able to fix it.
Suze: I'm not sure if he'll ever be able to understand it.
Suze: Life sometimes deals us lessons that we're never able to understand.
Suze: But it does deal us lessons that eventually we just
Suze: have to accept and go on.
Suze: However, there's a big difference
Suze: between being broken because you've lost something that is not
Suze: replaceable
Suze: and something that is.
Suze: And so today's podcast is going to be very short
Suze: but I hope very profound.
Suze: Because things actually happen in life, they do happen.
Suze: And when they happen, it puts everything in perspective.
Suze: It puts everything into this like picture frame of what
Suze: is really clear and what isn't.
Suze: And my wish for all of you is that you
Suze: live your life that way every day.
Suze: You don't wait until something happens that snaps you into
Suze: reality of what's really important.
Suze: You don't spend all your energy festering on all the
Suze: problems that can be solved.
Suze: You don't waste your time going, what am I gonna do?
Suze: What am I gonna do? Oh my God, I'm afraid
Suze: Social Security tariffs, all of these things, you take action.
Suze: The actions that I talked about in last Sunday's podcast.
Suze: So you do something.
Suze: And when you can do something to solve it.
Suze: To make something that is replaceable replaced.
Suze: Then all of a sudden it's not so hard.
Suze: So I just wanted to say all of that to
Suze: all of you today and why we are doing these
Suze: podcasts early.
Suze: And just to know I love you all.
Suze: And bottom line, it was so right for us to go.
Suze: It was so right.
Suze: And I know
Suze: if I could be talking to you, given the fact
Suze: that I am there right now, I would be saying
Suze: to you, not only was it so right, but it
Suze: was so necessary. We will be back on Thursday, so
Suze: until then there's only one thing that I want you
Suze: to remember when it comes to your money, and it
Suze: is this.
Suze: People first, everybody, people first, then money, then things. Now
Suze: you stay safe
Suze: and
Suze: strong.