1 00:00:29,780 --> 00:00:35,379 Suze: April 6, 2025. Welcome everybody to the Women and Money 2 00:00:35,380 --> 00:00:39,590 Suze: podcast as well as everybody smart enough to listen. Suze 3 00:00:39,779 --> 00:00:45,339 Suze: O here. Now, I am actually recording this on April 2nd. 4 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:49,269 Suze: And that is because we needed to leave 5 00:00:50,119 --> 00:00:54,439 Suze: to go somewhere on April 3rd. All right. 6 00:00:55,430 --> 00:00:57,380 Suze: I want you to listen to me today and take 7 00:00:57,380 --> 00:00:59,540 Suze: out your little Suze notebooks. 8 00:01:00,369 --> 00:01:03,560 Suze: Where are KT and I going? 9 00:01:04,749 --> 00:01:08,548 Suze: A few days ago I got a text from my nephew, 10 00:01:10,209 --> 00:01:12,179 Suze: telling me that his son 11 00:01:13,250 --> 00:01:15,589 Suze: was killed in a motorcycle accident. 12 00:01:17,279 --> 00:01:21,738 Suze: And how broken he is and how he would trade 13 00:01:21,739 --> 00:01:25,300 Suze: his life if he could to have his son alive 14 00:01:25,300 --> 00:01:29,980 Suze: again and how he just doesn't understand how this possibly 15 00:01:29,980 --> 00:01:34,300 Suze: could have happened. Aaron Orman, known also as the Dude, 16 00:01:34,540 --> 00:01:38,489 Suze: was only 24 years of age. 17 00:01:39,279 --> 00:01:43,959 Suze: So while you're hearing this, KT and I are with 18 00:01:43,959 --> 00:01:45,279 Suze: Travis Orman. 19 00:01:46,309 --> 00:01:49,480 Suze: Both my nephews are Travis. Travis Race, 20 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:54,220 Suze: on KT's side and on my side, Travis Orman, and 21 00:01:54,220 --> 00:01:58,339 Suze: we are with him because all he wanted from me 22 00:01:58,339 --> 00:01:59,139 Suze: was a hug. 23 00:02:00,010 --> 00:02:03,349 Suze: And a hug sometimes can be worth 24 00:02:04,089 --> 00:02:05,370 Suze: everything. 25 00:02:06,169 --> 00:02:09,270 Suze: So I'm sure by now I am hugging him many, 26 00:02:09,279 --> 00:02:13,910 Suze: many times over, but as I've been thinking about this 27 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:19,399 Suze: the past few hours, I've been thinking about what is 28 00:02:19,399 --> 00:02:23,279 Suze: not replaceable, and this is where I want you to 29 00:02:23,279 --> 00:02:26,080 Suze: get out your Suze notebooks as I already asked you 30 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:26,550 Suze: to do. 31 00:02:27,350 --> 00:02:31,940 Suze: I want you to write down everything in your life 32 00:02:32,940 --> 00:02:34,320 Suze: that if you lost it, 33 00:02:35,130 --> 00:02:39,380 Suze: you seriously could not replace it. Now I get that 34 00:02:39,380 --> 00:02:40,809 Suze: if you lose your house. 35 00:02:41,460 --> 00:02:44,529 Suze: It's possible for you to replace it with another house 36 00:02:44,529 --> 00:02:47,210 Suze: somewhere else, so that doesn't qualify. 37 00:02:47,949 --> 00:02:49,070 Suze: You lose your car. 38 00:02:50,100 --> 00:02:53,130 Suze: It is possible for you to get another car. 39 00:02:53,979 --> 00:02:59,399 Suze: And replace it, so that doesn't count. What is truly 40 00:02:59,770 --> 00:03:04,038 Suze: not replaceable in your life. 41 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:08,759 Suze: Are you writing it down? 42 00:03:09,820 --> 00:03:12,860 Suze: And I know as you're thinking about this and you're 43 00:03:12,860 --> 00:03:14,130 Suze: writing things down. 44 00:03:15,880 --> 00:03:20,029 Suze: Probably you are writing down the names of people. 45 00:03:21,538 --> 00:03:24,520 Suze: Relatives loved ones. 46 00:03:25,179 --> 00:03:30,839 Suze: That really are not replaceable no matter what. 47 00:03:32,740 --> 00:03:33,609 Suze: And then 48 00:03:34,279 --> 00:03:37,250 Suze: when you're finished with that, if you go to the 49 00:03:37,250 --> 00:03:39,990 Suze: next column on the other side. 50 00:03:40,789 --> 00:03:46,860 Suze: And put down all the things that are replaceable. 51 00:03:48,759 --> 00:03:53,270 Suze: And that you fret about so much of the time. 52 00:03:54,839 --> 00:03:58,429 Suze: All of you write me about, oh Suze, I've lost 53 00:03:58,429 --> 00:04:00,220 Suze: money in the stock market. 54 00:04:01,029 --> 00:04:03,369 Suze: And actually you haven't lost money in the stock market, 55 00:04:03,449 --> 00:04:05,970 Suze: you've lost your gains in the stock market if you 56 00:04:05,970 --> 00:04:07,089 Suze: bought at the right time. 57 00:04:08,009 --> 00:04:12,350 Suze: Suze, I've lost my home. Suze, I've lost this. I've 58 00:04:12,350 --> 00:04:17,179 Suze: lost that. I want you to really, really ask yourself. 59 00:04:18,170 --> 00:04:20,730 Suze: All the things that you have lost, and I'm not 60 00:04:20,730 --> 00:04:24,040 Suze: saying that those are not incredible tragedies. 61 00:04:24,950 --> 00:04:26,529 Suze: But I think it's important. 62 00:04:27,178 --> 00:04:32,239 Suze: In life that we always keep everything in perspective. 63 00:04:33,010 --> 00:04:34,140 Suze: Everything 64 00:04:36,779 --> 00:04:39,380 Suze: Just think about that for a second. 65 00:04:40,799 --> 00:04:43,850 Suze: Because when you know that you've lost something. 66 00:04:44,579 --> 00:04:48,730 Suze: But yet you do have the ability through either hard 67 00:04:48,730 --> 00:04:54,279 Suze: work or through whatever it may be to eventually replace 68 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:55,679 Suze: and go on. 69 00:04:57,920 --> 00:05:04,309 Suze: Then you can't lose your energy, your courage, your determination 70 00:05:04,309 --> 00:05:08,880 Suze: to rebuild the life that you once had. Maybe it 71 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:11,549 Suze: won't be in the exact same place that you were living, 72 00:05:11,920 --> 00:05:15,079 Suze: but you can rebuild a life that you learn to 73 00:05:15,079 --> 00:05:16,399 Suze: love again. 74 00:05:17,750 --> 00:05:22,480 Suze: What struck me from Travis talking to me, I said, Travis, 75 00:05:22,559 --> 00:05:25,880 Suze: how are you doing? He kept saying, I'm broken. 76 00:05:27,049 --> 00:05:29,238 Suze: I'm broken, Aunt Suze. 77 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:33,450 Suze: And I said, well, how's your daughter Amanda doing? 78 00:05:35,049 --> 00:05:38,308 Suze: And he said she lost her best friend. Erin was 79 00:05:38,309 --> 00:05:41,868 Suze: her best friend, and she's broken, but he kept 80 00:05:42,649 --> 00:05:49,488 Suze: using the word broken over and over and over again. 81 00:05:51,170 --> 00:05:54,070 Suze: And it's true. I'll never be able to fix it. 82 00:05:55,540 --> 00:05:58,250 Suze: I'm not sure if he'll ever be able to understand it. 83 00:06:00,678 --> 00:06:05,720 Suze: Life sometimes deals us lessons that we're never able to understand. 84 00:06:07,190 --> 00:06:11,019 Suze: But it does deal us lessons that eventually we just 85 00:06:11,019 --> 00:06:13,849 Suze: have to accept and go on. 86 00:06:16,140 --> 00:06:19,309 Suze: However, there's a big difference 87 00:06:20,480 --> 00:06:25,700 Suze: between being broken because you've lost something that is not 88 00:06:25,700 --> 00:06:26,488 Suze: replaceable 89 00:06:27,540 --> 00:06:30,159 Suze: and something that is. 90 00:06:31,260 --> 00:06:34,479 Suze: And so today's podcast is going to be very short 91 00:06:35,760 --> 00:06:37,979 Suze: but I hope very profound. 92 00:06:39,230 --> 00:06:43,988 Suze: Because things actually happen in life, they do happen. 93 00:06:45,170 --> 00:06:49,420 Suze: And when they happen, it puts everything in perspective. 94 00:06:50,220 --> 00:06:54,640 Suze: It puts everything into this like picture frame of what 95 00:06:54,640 --> 00:06:57,519 Suze: is really clear and what isn't. 96 00:06:59,250 --> 00:07:02,339 Suze: And my wish for all of you is that you 97 00:07:02,339 --> 00:07:05,149 Suze: live your life that way every day. 98 00:07:05,820 --> 00:07:09,440 Suze: You don't wait until something happens that snaps you into 99 00:07:09,440 --> 00:07:11,510 Suze: reality of what's really important. 100 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:16,630 Suze: You don't spend all your energy festering on all the 101 00:07:16,630 --> 00:07:18,670 Suze: problems that can be solved. 102 00:07:20,510 --> 00:07:23,720 Suze: You don't waste your time going, what am I gonna do? 103 00:07:23,799 --> 00:07:25,839 Suze: What am I gonna do? Oh my God, I'm afraid 104 00:07:25,839 --> 00:07:30,239 Suze: Social Security tariffs, all of these things, you take action. 105 00:07:31,010 --> 00:07:35,670 Suze: The actions that I talked about in last Sunday's podcast. 106 00:07:36,589 --> 00:07:38,329 Suze: So you do something. 107 00:07:39,489 --> 00:07:43,040 Suze: And when you can do something to solve it. 108 00:07:43,940 --> 00:07:47,850 Suze: To make something that is replaceable replaced. 109 00:07:49,089 --> 00:07:52,640 Suze: Then all of a sudden it's not so hard. 110 00:07:54,109 --> 00:07:56,489 Suze: So I just wanted to say all of that to 111 00:07:56,489 --> 00:07:59,369 Suze: all of you today and why we are doing these 112 00:07:59,369 --> 00:08:00,809 Suze: podcasts early. 113 00:08:01,910 --> 00:08:03,790 Suze: And just to know I love you all. 114 00:08:04,730 --> 00:08:08,799 Suze: And bottom line, it was so right for us to go. 115 00:08:09,049 --> 00:08:10,209 Suze: It was so right. 116 00:08:11,250 --> 00:08:12,739 Suze: And I know 117 00:08:13,739 --> 00:08:16,589 Suze: if I could be talking to you, given the fact 118 00:08:16,589 --> 00:08:19,600 Suze: that I am there right now, I would be saying 119 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:22,239 Suze: to you, not only was it so right, but it 120 00:08:22,239 --> 00:08:27,000 Suze: was so necessary. We will be back on Thursday, so 121 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:29,760 Suze: until then there's only one thing that I want you 122 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:31,799 Suze: to remember when it comes to your money, and it 123 00:08:31,799 --> 00:08:32,559 Suze: is this. 124 00:08:33,708 --> 00:08:42,049 Suze: People first, everybody, people first, then money, then things. Now 125 00:08:42,049 --> 00:08:43,698 Suze: you stay safe 126 00:08:44,028 --> 00:08:45,169 Suze: and 127 00:08:45,169 --> 00:08:45,978 Suze: strong.